Ever have those days where you just don't want to do anything.. but feel obligated. Like how I've left my co-teacher alone on her days of teaching for the last 2 times? Yeah.. So I felt obligated to be at church today. don't get me wrong. I love going to Church except when the boys are amazingly annoying.. :) Like this morning. Wasn't feeling it. But I suffered through going the motions of getting the boys bathed and dressed and fed. Blah blah blah...
Went to church. Cayden has this annoying thing he does where he'll ask the same question over and over and over and get more and more and more loud and mad at me when I say no no no no. UGH! And then Creighton is just plain ol' annoying. Then I try to take Creighton out cause he's cranky and Cayden precedes to say kind of loud : "NO MOM I WANT TO STAYYYYYYYYY!" yay me. And then Creighton won't leave my side. He didn't even want to walk around. I held him. For a good 20 minutes straight. My arm was dead.
Moving to after Sacrament. Tried to take Creighton to Nursery (after successfully dropping of Cayden) and he WOULD.NOT.LET.ME.GO. He screamed bloody murder! Seriously. I gave him his sippie. Nope. Screamed while drinking. Let him down to play with trains. See Creighton trains are so fun. Oh Look- a big truck Yay so much fun. nope.nothing.nada. just screams.
So I take him out. Try primary to sit with my class. Screams again. Its like he's afraid of classrooms. He finally calmed down and walked around and looked at one of his favorite books. but class time comes around it was kinda touchy. He was okay for a minute and then wasn't for a minute. He's attached to me like glue.
Oh and the lesson I've been working on for next week- my co teacher taught this week.. this is why we have a schedule. her lesson was supposed to be about Loving one another. Why oh WHY? So do I teach the same lesson? Or the lesson she skipped? I'm a little bugged... She had the schedule right there... I'm confused. UGH!
But after I've been super rude to my sweet husband and cried for about an hour... I think I'm fine. I am still unwilling.
Creighton seems super tired.
So what should I do? Should I go to Sacrament - only for the Sacrament, go home let him have a nap and then come back? So he'll stay in Nursery and be happy???? Ugh.. help me!
5 comments:
OK- Unfortunately, leaving or not going at all will just show him that he can get his way. I fought Charlotte for 2. FREAKING. HOURS. today before church, TRYING to get her to nap. NO GO. The thought crossed my mind a million times to just stay home and let her nap, but I knew that wasn't right. Just remember that church times change every year and you'll be battling SOMETHING every year until they're like 5! haha! As for the lesson.... ask the other teacher what's going on. Just tell her you thought you were on a certain lesson and she just did it and if you messed up or she did. Don't be afraid to ask her, this really isn't something to let bother you. Don't stress :) Church is hard with kids. And like I've said a million times to you, I can't imagine how hard it is by yourself. Try and make friends that you feel comfortable asking for their help when you need it. No one is judging you or thinking you should be doing things different. If anything, they're thinking that you probably need help and don't want to step on your toes by offering so by you asking for the help, it let's them serve you when you need it most. I hope next week is better. Pray every Sunday morning for peace and comfort and guidance. Heavenly Father won't leave you abandoned. If anything, He'll help you know how to cope when times are hard. I hope this was helpful. After typing it out, I feel like I just told you exactly what I need to hear right now. Charlotte's driving me BONKERS!!!!!!! Good luck, friend :)
Becca you have no idea how much I needed to hear all of that. thank you it is very appreciated!! :) They are such good kids the other 6 days and something about Church and being by myself and being in a skirt (ha) gets me all flustered. Again- thank you!
That sounds so rough! I am sorry. Some days are just like that, it is hard I know. There are times I just want to skip church because it doesn't seem worth the effort. I just say, your family does come first. But you also don't want to enable bad behavior, so that's a Mommy call. Good luck next week!!!
I feel your pain!! My hubs is frequently up on the stand because he leads the music and leaves me alone with my three monsters!! My girls won't whisper for anything and Aiden is just..you know!! :) They are at a very hard age right now!! The one thing that helped me was an older Grandma in our ward. She always ended up sitting behind us and eventually my kids felt so comfortable with her that they started sitting with her and my oldest called her Grandma. The Grandma loved it and then started bringing them treats and stuff to color. This helped me because just one less kid to worry about helped and then if I had to take Aiden out which I usually do, my girls had someone to sit with. Unfortunately, they just moved and now I'm stuck again. It can be very miserable going to church but they do get better the older they get:) Good luck!! We all need it!!
Oh, and you just have to leave them in nursery even if they cry. My Jordyn was my hardest but the sweet nursery lady said that was the only way to do it and that it was ok.If you take them out after they cry, they know that works so they will do that again or even cry harder if it's not working at first. They know you will eventually give in. Talk to the nursery leader about what they think. If it gets too bad, they can come get you. They know where you are:) I'm in nursery now and it's ok. I just try to hold them (if they let me) or try to get them to play. Eventually they calm down and play. They all end up fine. Just detach him from you....have the leader take him from you and run out the door. The longer you stay, the harder they cry. And just know that he will calm down eventually. I hope that helps!
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